Friday, 21 March 2014

Can Christians use coupons on a first date???

One time I was working and I walked outside on my break and started chatting with a couple girls I work with.  I asked what they were doing for St.Valentines day (one of three Christian saints along with St Patrick and St Nicholas) that the secular work appreciates)  one girl told me she was going to the movies with her boyfriend, the other said she was doing nothing except eating chocolate and watching movies.  I said this was a travesty and I would be happy to take her out.  I picked her up and we went to the Aquarium as we arrived i pulled out my entertainment coupon which got us in two for one.  Its $20 each.  She gasped! I laughed and asked what the problem was.  She wouldn't respond.  Oh well the aquarium is so fun that by the time we hit the sea otters it was all good.  We laughed, we danced as I taught her how to salsa dance in there, we played with some kids that I started up a conversation with, and she grabbed my hand a few times as we walked around.  So after that we go to a nice top floor revolving restaurant down town.  I pulled out another coupon and that was it for her.  She yelled at me that I was embarrassing her, and she wanted to go home.  I explained I thought we were out as friends having a fun day and I use coupons all the time because why not?  If you are scouting me for a relationship, you will know that we will always be able to go out and have fun even if we don’t have much money.  she laughed and we had a great end of the night but the next day she said she didn't think we should go out again and that was fine with me.  We stayed friend and we still laugh about it when we bump into each other.  Whenever she sees me out with a girl she loves to tell the story.

So the question here is: “is it wrong to use coupons on a first date?”
I actually had a very conservative Christian friend actually swear at me saying that this was wrong.
I've also had people tell me that if she cant handle coupons then she is too uptight.
I'm not kidding, this has been one of the most hotly debated issues in my circle of friends.  Ive even lost a couple friends because they say they cant handle that I would treat a girl in such a disrespectful fashion as to use a coupon on a date.
Personally I say dating should be fun, not an audition for marriage.  The first date is just two friends going out.   What do you think?

Is there Such Thing as Christian Dating Anyways?

  All over the internet and even in church you will hear tons about "Christian Dating".  I even once attended a Christian dating seminar. All these ideas of how Christian dating should be done, what needs to happen, the timelines, the rules etc.  But where is dating in the Bible? Well, it simply is not there.  Dating did not even exist in Biblical times.  You will not find  people finding each other on-line and passing over someone's profile because they don't like the same movies.  You also won't find people bumping into each other and dating for months and years and they try and figure out if marriage is right for them.  So where do we get these ideas on what Christian dating is all about?

  It is tough for sure. But we still as Christians hold strong to biblical principles and apply them to all aspects of our lives including dating.  Many aspects of our lives today did not exist in biblical times but still it is the calling to all Christians to be Christians in all aspects of our lives, even dating.

  So this is just a quick introduction to my blog, I am excited to see where this will go and I am looking forward to this adventure.